As I write this, I am closing in on 9 months since I had a mastectomy to have my breasts removed.
In the time since that surgery I’ve suffered from constant physical pain and emotional confusion.
People tell me I am brave. I am not brave. I am tired and I am despondent about the way our medical system treats women’s bodies, including my own.
I am despondent about the way our medical system treats women’s bodies.
Breast Cancer Diagnosis
It all started with the cancer found in my right breast during the summer of 2021. After that, I faced many medical forks in the road.
Lumpectomy vs Mastectomy
Lumpectomy is a breast-conserving surgery where only a portion of breast tissue containing the cancer is removed. A mastectomy is when the entire breast is surgically removed.
Mastectomy made sense for me on a number of levels.
But mostly because I have the BRCA genetic mutation which made my lifetime risk of breast cancer 500% higher than the average woman’s,1, 2 and also gave me a much higher risk of recurring cancers.
Interviewing Breast Surgeon for Double Mastectomy
It made sense to have my breasts taken off, and since cancer doesn’t follow our schedule, I began interviewing breast surgeons and researching different types of mastectomy stat.
Flat Closure or Reconstruction?
I seriously considered breast reconstruction. But, along the way, as I continued to research, I realized implants were not the right choice for me, and I decided upon mastectomy with flat closure.
What is a Flat Closure Mastectomy?
With flat closure, the breast is deconstructed and entirely removed, then the tissue is tightened and smoothed out to create a symmetrical, flat chest wall.
Surgeons Often Question Flat Closure
For my mastectomy, I chose one of the top breast surgeons in the country, at a world renowned university.
Flat Denial: When Doctors Favor Reconstruction
As I look back, it becomes apparent that “my doctor never mentioned that going flat was an option.”3 I figured it out on my own and asked her for it, but I’ll get to that later.
Mild Flat Denial
According to Katrin Van Dam, author of Flat and Happy, “This omission during the surgical consult is regarded by researchers as the mildest form of a phenomenon called flat denial.”4
UCLA Study on Flat Denial
As an aside, in a study conducted by Dr. Deanna Attai, a breast surgeon at UCLA, over 20% of women who ask for flat closure experience flat denial.5
In fact, leading women’s health expert Kim Bowles coined the term “flat denial” when her surgeon unilaterally implemented his own ideas about her mastectomy after she made clear, both verbally and in writing, that she did not want implants.
When Flat Denial is Medical Battery
As she lay on the operating table, drinking in the anesthesia, he said, I’m just going to “leave a little in case you change your mind.” She woke up with empty sacks of skin ready for future implant surgery, in direct violation of the flat closure she asked for.
A woman with cancer undergoing an amputation should not feel like she’s being roofied at a frat party.
Medical Betrayal
Bowles has dedicated her life to flat closure advocacy, determined to turn her pain and medical betrayal into progress for others. Her website Not Putting on a Shirt, is a must visit if you’re having a mastectomy.
My Surgeon and Mild Flat Denial
When I met with my surgeon to discuss my upcoming procedure, she did not offer flat as an option.
I had to let her know that I wanted to “go flat.” In turn, she questioned it extensively, which did not seem to indicate a problem since this was a very permanent decision.
Planning for Flat Closure
While we spent an adequate amount of time discussing whether or not to reconstruct my breasts with implants, she was far less interested in fielding my questions about flat closure and hurried the conversation along somewhat dismissively.
Flat Closure and Scar Patterns
I continued attempting to get answers from her on a number of potential outcomes, including the types of scars I would be looking at every day for the rest of my life.
Buyer Beware: the Start of my Mastectomy Nightmare
Her initial response was a nonchalant non-answer.
When I asked again, she stated: they’re going to be big scars, and you’re not going to like them. I should have run the other way.
Her peculiar behavior did not stop there.
Disregard for HIPAA
The surgeon then identified one of her patients to me, sharing a name and photo, breaking doctor-patient confidentiality.
I should have run the other way.
This may not seem like a major issue, but trust me, you want a surgeon who follows standard operating procedures because if they don’t, it’s a sign that bigger mistakes may lie ahead.
The Grind of the Cancer Industrial Complex
In retrospect, everything is glaringly obvious, but at the time, I was not feeling like myself, dealing with cancer on top of MS, celiac disease, and more.
Beyond that, the machinery of the Cancer Industrial Complex just grinds you down.
Warning Signs
I now realize I should have canceled this operation when the surgeon displayed the tiniest bit of impatience and disregard in our conversation about my surgical outcome.
Putting Breast Cancer Behind Me
We all know, though, that twenty-twenty hindsight is everything because when I look back on the mastectomy, I recall that I was full of hope and so ready to put the entire shitty cancer experience behind me.
Post Mastectomy Joy
Along those lines, when I woke up from surgery in February 2022, I had a huge smile on my face.
Unfortunately, my relief had a short half-life.
The Big Reveal
After surgery, when I peered down into the bandages, a lopsided, hollowed-out result stared back at me.
A Painful Trench of Skin and Bone
Odder still, was that while the left side, the side with cancer, had a chest wall with a smooth outcome, the right side, which I had elected to have removed in a prophylactic mastectomy, was a little trench of painful skin and bone.
Hollowed Out
My healthy chest wall was hollowed out.
I gave my breasts, the ones that fed my babies, to the Gods of Cancer willingly, but the surgeon took my chest wall without my consent.
Stage 1 Cancer vs Living with Pain Forever
As I write this, I have a number of mastectomy-related medical problems on the gutted right side of my chest that have not been addressed since my procedure.
I have lived in pain all day, every day, for 9 months.
Pain Changes You
Living in pain changes your brain.
Living in pain changes who you are.
You feel like you’re stuck in a moment that will never end.
No Good Choice
I am truly heartbroken to say that having stage 1 cancer was less of a burden and far easier than dealing with a nightmare mastectomy result.
When I had breast cancer, I had no pain, and I was filled with the hope of many treatment options.
Bad Mastectomy: Haircut Will Never Grow Out
But now, I have a bad haircut, and it is one that will never grow out.
One Chest, Two Different Operations
Two sides of my chest, two different procedures. One major injury. Zero explanations.
We Can Do Better Than This
Is this how we treat a woman after she’s suffered from cancer and had an amputation?
When Cancer Tears You Apart…
According to Kim Bowles, “The only real matter of choice in the whole cancer treatment process is the reconstruction decision, to take this choice away is cruel and avoidable.“
…And Your Choice is Taken Away
When cancer tore me apart, I wanted some say in how I was put back together. I did not get that.
from Ketone Blog https://ketone2013.com/mastectomy-with-flat-closure-nightmare/
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